Comments on: Stepmonster on NPR’s “On Point” http://www.wednesdaymartin.com/blog/2009/07/stepmonster-on-nprs-on-point/ Official Blog for the Author of Stepmonster Thu, 09 Sep 2010 00:49:16 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: admin http://www.wednesdaymartin.com/blog/2009/07/stepmonster-on-nprs-on-point/comment-page-1/#comment-1659 admin Thu, 20 Aug 2009 02:11:22 +0000 http://www.wednesdaymartin.com/blog/?p=377#comment-1659 Jennie, The judgment and sense that they know best is incredible. It comes even from smart and otherwise compassionate people. I know I used to judge stepmothers very harshly myself--then I became one! Hope you are finding some friends who are supportive as well. I know it's scary to open up about stepmothering--you never know how people will respond. Thanks for reading! xx wednesday Jennie,
The judgment and sense that they know best is incredible. It comes even from smart and otherwise compassionate people. I know I used to judge stepmothers very harshly myself–then I became one! Hope you are finding some friends who are supportive as well. I know it’s scary to open up about stepmothering–you never know how people will respond.
Thanks for reading! xx wednesday

]]> By: Jennie http://www.wednesdaymartin.com/blog/2009/07/stepmonster-on-nprs-on-point/comment-page-1/#comment-1637 Jennie Wed, 19 Aug 2009 19:04:32 +0000 http://www.wednesdaymartin.com/blog/?p=377#comment-1637 It's nice finally hearing that we stepmothers actually have feelings that need to be recognized. I heard it all when I was engaged to my husband who at the time had 4 and 6 year old boys. "You have to love the kids as your own" "The kids come first" "If you do not love them as your own then it is not true love between you and your husband" All of those comments seemed to only come from women, particularly women who have given birth to their own children. They all thought they were giving me sound advice, but it came from nowhere because none of them were stepmothers or had stepmothers! It’s nice finally hearing that we stepmothers actually have feelings that need to be recognized. I heard it all when I was engaged to my husband who at the time had 4 and 6 year old boys. “You have to love the kids as your own” “The kids come first” “If you do not love them as your own then it is not true love between you and your husband” All of those comments seemed to only come from women, particularly women who have given birth to their own children. They all thought they were giving me sound advice, but it came from nowhere because none of them were stepmothers or had stepmothers!

]]> By: wednesday http://www.wednesdaymartin.com/blog/2009/07/stepmonster-on-nprs-on-point/comment-page-1/#comment-710 wednesday Wed, 05 Aug 2009 01:56:10 +0000 http://www.wednesdaymartin.com/blog/?p=377#comment-710 Walter, Stepparenting makes so many of us feel we are insane. It can be SUCH a relief to see the research backing up the fact that our experiences are normal and typical. The isolation, the sense of failing somehow, so need to be dispelled! It sounds like you are currently in the "stuck outsider" position in the stepfamily architecture. I will you all luck in resetting the balance in the household and building a coalition with your wife. The National Stepfamily Resource Center has a great web site. Through it you can find therapists who know how to treat stepfamilies in your area, and also great books and articles. Good luck, I'm rooting for you! wednesday Walter,
Stepparenting makes so many of us feel we are insane. It can be SUCH a relief to see the research backing up the fact that our experiences are normal and typical. The isolation, the sense of failing somehow, so need to be dispelled!

It sounds like you are currently in the “stuck outsider” position in the stepfamily architecture. I will you all luck in resetting the balance in the household and building a coalition with your wife. The National Stepfamily Resource Center has a great web site. Through it you can find therapists who know how to treat stepfamilies in your area, and also great books and articles. Good luck, I’m rooting for you!
wednesday

]]> By: walter http://www.wednesdaymartin.com/blog/2009/07/stepmonster-on-nprs-on-point/comment-page-1/#comment-705 walter Tue, 04 Aug 2009 22:56:52 +0000 http://www.wednesdaymartin.com/blog/?p=377#comment-705 I thought I was going insane. I am a step-father, and hear the needs for couple unity. My relationship lacks it completely, and there is a massive power struggle.. I struggle for some balance. I struggle to figure out how to move forward, and the show really helps. Hopefully my wife will listen to this to understand where I am coming from. Just to get unified is important, and to create something that is compatible for all. Secrets between the children and their mother because they are afraid of my reaction only makes things worse. It leads to separation and division. I could go on, but thank you again for bringing up the topic. I thought I was going insane. I am a step-father, and hear the needs for couple unity. My relationship lacks it completely, and there is a massive power struggle.. I struggle for some balance. I struggle to figure out how to move forward, and the show really helps. Hopefully my wife will listen to this to understand where I am coming from. Just to get unified is important, and to create something that is compatible for all. Secrets between the children and their mother because they are afraid of my reaction only makes things worse. It leads to separation and division. I could go on, but thank you again for bringing up the topic.

]]> By: wednesday http://www.wednesdaymartin.com/blog/2009/07/stepmonster-on-nprs-on-point/comment-page-1/#comment-680 wednesday Tue, 04 Aug 2009 00:43:00 +0000 http://www.wednesdaymartin.com/blog/?p=377#comment-680 Thanks Eyes Wide Open, I'm glad you'll be listening. And I've never, ever heard anyone describe herself as an NPR slut...so thanks for the education! Thanks Eyes Wide Open, I’m glad you’ll be listening. And I’ve never, ever heard anyone describe herself as an NPR slut…so thanks for the education!

]]> By: Eyes Wide Open http://www.wednesdaymartin.com/blog/2009/07/stepmonster-on-nprs-on-point/comment-page-1/#comment-665 Eyes Wide Open Mon, 03 Aug 2009 16:15:39 +0000 http://www.wednesdaymartin.com/blog/?p=377#comment-665 I am an NPR slut...we don't do the TV thing in our house and NPR is ALWAYS on. I'm looking forward to it, as On Point is one of my favorite programs. I am an NPR slut…we don’t do the TV thing in our house and NPR is ALWAYS on. I’m looking forward to it, as On Point is one of my favorite programs.

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