Sandy Bullock vs. Janine the Porn Star–the Catfight that Isn’t
In this catfight that isn't, dad is let off the hook
Please check out my latest post on psychologytoday.com about the custody battle between Sandra Bullock, Jesse James, and his ex Janine Lindemulder
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/stepmonster/200911/pornstar-mom-superstar-stepmomwhat-about-dad
Tags: catfight, custody battle, deadbeat dad, divorce, divorce with children, double standards, family court, hypocrisy, Janine Lindemulder, Jesse James, mother, Sandra Bullock, stepmother
November 10th, 2009 at 3:02 pm
my thoghts exactly: why does HE get a pass?? why is he saying she lives in a crappy neighborhood and that’s grounds, rather than paying for his child’s mother to live in a better neighborhood. isn’t the law that there must be equitable lifestyles? and I say this as a second wife and a stepmom who doesn’t always thrilll to sending out that child support check. but it is gross to me that he is totally unscathed here. he MARRIED her and had a kid with her, then left her pg and didn’t look up his kids for a couple of years–and he’s the good guy and she’s the disaster?
November 10th, 2009 at 9:31 pm
I agree with Jennifer that he shouldn’t get a pass on the choices he’s made.
I disagree that he’s obligated to fund her lifestyle. Janine is married. I don’t think Jesse should have to be financially responsible for their poor choices and spending habits.
November 12th, 2009 at 1:08 pm
no not “fund her lifestyle.” more that many states and Im not sure abut california stipulate residences have to be “equal” so that the kid isn’t living two totally different lifestyles post-divorce with the two parents.
more i mean, if he’s going to go the route of “unfit mother”–and hey maybe she is but let the court decide it–what makes him a fit father if he’s not trying to go the road of co-parenting and paying for the child to have a better lifestyle when she’s with mom. it’s required by many states. if she’s using all that money for drugs it’s one thing. if he’s bullying with his wealth, it’s another.
November 25th, 2009 at 9:20 am
As someone who has had infertility treatment and a child as a result, I find it sad when people past childbearing age or are on the cusp (late 30’s, early 40’s) are deemed barren. There would be a much higher percentage of “infertile” people out there if we all waited until we were 35 to have kids. I have to laugh at the statement Sandra Bullock made saying that she gave up having a child of her own to devote herself to her stepdaughter and the situation. Sandra Bullock is 45 years old, she has just past childbearing age. She married her husband at age 41. If she had any intention of having children, she would have had them already or she would have tried immediately upon marriage. Maybe she did try on her own and sadly could not get pregnant or keep a pregnancy due to her age, or maybe she did use infertility treatments but that did not work either, so she is playing the card that she is sacrificing for her husband and stepdaughter. Or maybe she does not want children and that was the best thing to say to the press because society looks down upon women who do not want to have children. Who knows. This is a custody battle between two lowlifes but one lowlife has a ton of money to spend on lawyers and positive press because of his very wealthy and famous wife. Money equals power, even in the biased family court system. A child needs both parents, not the parent who has the most money.
April 4th, 2010 at 9:20 am
It’s sad when a woman loses custody of her child. I cannot imagine that happening to me, I would be devastated. It is rare for a woman who wants custody to lose it, so I often wonder what Janine did. Her being a porn star has nothing to do with it. The complaints against her were that she was unstable, on drugs, etc…There are plenty of celebrity couples that break up when the woman was pregnant and the woman has sole custody, namely Bridget Moynahan, Mary Lousie Parker. So the most recent thing that made her look bad and cost her custody were her tax evasion. That is definitely a sign of not being responsible. She had full custody of her daughter and then when her child was three years old the father finally got overnight visitation. Maybe he was fighting for three years and finally got it, maybe he didn’t care and Sandra convinced him his daughter was important, who knows. But then
the court report stated that he started fighting for joint physical custody (rare for a father to have, especially when he has not been a part of the childs life at all) and starting accusing Janine of abuse. For example, saying that the child was crying during overnights. Umm, hello, any normal 3 year old would cry when they are away from their mother when with essentially, stangers. He accused her of allegedly physically assaulting the child by saying the child had strange bruises. When the child was asked about how she got the bruises the child said “mommy’s chair” My God, my 3 year old gets bruises all the time. He then said the child was saying “don’t touch me” Hello, my 3 year old says that too. Children that age mimic what their parents say. When my daugher won’t leave me alone I sometimes say “don’t touch me” and she has repeated that. He also stated that the mother was 1 hour late picking the child up one time. Umm, maybe she got stuck in traffic, What does that have to do with being unfit? He also said the child
did not have a stable environment because the mother moved every year part time to her home state. Hello, the child was not even in preschool yet. It did not matter at that time. So, he took her to court to get joint physical custody, using all of this and also her past drug abuse as a reason. The joint custody agreement stated that Janine had to have regular drug testing. He basically just wanted her to screw up so he could get full custody based upon her past history. I am sure he did drugs in his past too. He also said that he would drop the abuse allegations if she gives him joint physical custody. Hello, if your child is being abused, the child should not be with the abusive parent at all. So you know it was all made up and a tactic. So, then the woman screwed up with tax evasion. It does not make her an unfit parent. She never tested positive for drugs. She should not have married an ex convict, she should have just dated him. So what I basically see: A jerk who left his pregnant wife, married again soon afterwards, used his famous and wealthy new wife to gain joint physical custody and now full custody. Then the jerk cheats on his wife with a tattooed porn star just like the mother of the child he took away. I do not see that as a stable environment. The child should be with her mother.
September 28th, 2010 at 5:43 pm
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