Stepmother’s Day is May 16…Does Anyone Know??
Maybe you'll get flowers...
Hope you’ll have a look at my latest article on psychologytoday.com about Stepmother’s Day, which is (unofficially, of course!) May 16. Have a look…and leave a comment. And tell me about it here and now: will you do anything for Stepmother’s Day? Have you ever?
Tags: blended family, divorce, family, psychology today, remarriage, remarriage with children, stepfamily, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, stepmother's day, wednesday martin
May 12th, 2010 at 1:57 pm
I’m going to get a pedicure that day. I’m not kidding!! Hope you all do something fun and relaxing, we deserve it!
May 12th, 2010 at 2:36 pm
I will be in Utah with my mom
(but not celebrating stepmother’s day…celebrating a belated Mother’s Day!!)
May 12th, 2010 at 3:03 pm
Now that you mention it, I’m going to mention it too–to my husband. I don’t care if his kids do or say anything (though it would be nice but I don’t think it’s something they would do at this point). But I do feel the need for some acknowledgment from my HUSBAND. “Thanks honey for putting up with it when my kids and ex are not nice to you” goes an AWFUL long way!!! Even if I have to prompt him to say it (oh and a big giant ruby for all I’ve done would be nice too–but I digress!) Thnks Wednesday, thought-provoking as usual!
May 12th, 2010 at 4:36 pm
LOL! We began celebrating “S’mother’s Day” the Sunday after Mother’s day a long time ago. Of course, it was pushed forward by my husband after his dramatic learning experience the first Mother’s Day we were married (I was s’mothering his three children full time and preggo with our first and got nothing — not a card nor a verbal ‘Happy Mother’s Day’ wish. He learned that lesson well.) Even so, Mother’s Day itself was a really hard day for me for a long time, even having my own bio-babies and knowing I had ‘Smother’s Day’ because I’d let myself get too emotionally connected.
Now, the irony is that last fall I emotionally separated from my now-grown s’kids in a big way. Not in a mean, ignoring them or hating them way but in a I’m-your-dad’s-wife-and-not-your-mom-and-I-finally-realize-it-and-deserve-to-be-treated-with-respect-as-your-dad’s-wife kind of way. And wouldn’t you know it — on MOTHER’S DAY I received not only texts and calls from all three but gifts (quite nice gifts) from two of them as well. I was shocked. Completely and utterly shocked and touched to be voluntarily acknowledged on Mother’s Day.
Hubby claims he didn’t contact any of them, that he wanted to let them sink or swim on their own as a test. They passed with flying colors!
But for those moms who are NOT recognized on Mother’s Day, I really think they should celebrate (even if hubby has to push the kids through the motions the first few years) S’mother’s Day the following Sunday. We s’moms SOOOOOOO deserve it!!!
May 12th, 2010 at 4:59 pm
I love SM’s Day. Love it. It takes the stress out of Mother’s Day and worry about whether or not I’ll get completely ignored on Mother’s Day. It takes the stress out of deciding on whether or not I even want to be acknowledged on Mother’s Day (I didn’t this year and I got what I wanted). And even if Hubby ignores SM’s Day, I’m okay with it because I’m able to honor myself, and that’s what means the most to me about it.
A group of stepmoms and I do a gift exchange for SM’s Day. That way nobody goes completely ignored for the holiday. That’s how we celebrate. It’s great. I also try to make sure to do something special for myself–something I wouldn’t normally do.