Wednesday Martin » book news http://www.wednesdaymartin.com/blog Official Blog for the Author of Stepmonster Thu, 19 Jan 2012 17:17:13 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 en hourly 1 What Are Happily Married People Doing All the Time? http://www.wednesdaymartin.com/blog/2011/12/what-are-happily-married-people-doing-all-the-time/ http://www.wednesdaymartin.com/blog/2011/12/what-are-happily-married-people-doing-all-the-time/#comments Fri, 16 Dec 2011 03:00:53 +0000 admin http://www.wednesdaymartin.com/blog/?p=1412

Now what? The secret to a happy marriage on psychologytoday.com

If you are married to or partnered with a man with an ex and kids, you need every leg up you can get to keep yourself sane–and keep your partnership alive. Hope you will read my latest on psychologytoday.com. Then tell your husband or partner what happily married people are doing all the time…and leave a comment!

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/stepmonster/201112/give-it-me-often-the-surprising-secret-happy-marriage

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Lots of great articles on topics that matter to YOU


The October issue of StepMom Magazine is live! In it you will find articles by experts and women with stepchildren who walk the walk. You will find great advice and insight in these pages. This month I write about women with stepchildren and negativity. What is your best “fix” when you find yourself in a negativity spiral? Tell me about it.

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Have a listen, post a comment


Here’s a link to a radio interview I recently did with stepfamily therapist Mary Kelly-Williams, M.A. of marriedwithbaggage.com on her Blog Talk Radio show. We discussed childless and childfree women with stepchildren, their particular issues and challenges. Hope you will have a listen! Separately, blogger Kim Cottrell wonders “What to call us? Childfree sounds egocentric, childless sounds deprived.” What do you think? Do we need a new term?

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Testing, testing...please tune in!

I will be discussing the emotional reality of childless and child-free stepmothers with host Mary Kelly-Williams, M.A. on her Blog Talk Radio show September 27 at 11 am EST. Hope you will tune in…you can also call into the show to ask a question.

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Hope to see you there...

What are your biggest concerns and issues regarding your parntership with a man with kids (and and ex)? Tell me about it. I will be co-conducting a workshop with stepfamily expert Dr. Rachelle Katz on Saturday September 24 in NYC. Register by clicking here…and tell us about your biggest issue in the comments section below…

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Plus, she probably had stepkids

The September issues of StepMom Magazine has posted! In it you will find all kinds of informative and helpful articles by stepmothers and stepparenting experts who walk the walk. Mary Kelly Williams on the importance of the couple bond. Heather Hetchler on loyalty binds. Susan Swanson on why women with stepkids need social support–and good girlfriends. And Susan Wisdom in stepparenting teens. And much much more. I do recommend you subscribe today because knowledge is power, and can make this gig a lot less insanity-inducing!

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What are your questions?

I am the special guest expert on CafeMom’s Stepmom Central board this week. Hope you will stop by the site and ask a question

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Not!

Hope you will have a look at my latest post for psychologytoday.com…and leave a comment!

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If his kids are in a loyalty bind, take care of YOU

Joanne Richard wrote this article about stepchildren and adult stepchildren in loyalty binds and what a stepmother “should” do to improve the situation. My answer was…nothing! Joanne also quotes my colleague and good friend Dr. Rachelle Katz, author of The Happy Stepmother, one of the only reasearch-based books out there for stepmothers other than my own. Hope you will have a read…and leave a comment.

]]> http://www.wednesdaymartin.com/blog/2011/05/what-to-do-about-a-stepchild-in-a-loyalty-bind-how-about-less/feed/ 26 Buddhism for Stepmothers http://www.wednesdaymartin.com/blog/2011/04/buddhism-for-stepmothers/ http://www.wednesdaymartin.com/blog/2011/04/buddhism-for-stepmothers/#comments Thu, 07 Apr 2011 23:25:34 +0000 admin http://www.wednesdaymartin.com/blog/?p=1360 What women with stepchildren can’t relate to what Pema Chodron writes: “The saddest thing of all is how we cheat ourselves of the present moment.”

Are you angry about the past and anxious about the future?

Many of our stepmothering dilemmas are beyond our control–stressors abound in a repartnership with a man with children. But our responses to stress are, thankfully, something we can take charge of.

What part of your day is given over to ruminating over the past–the way his children and/or ex mistreated you or him, for example–or worrying about what may happen in the future? (What will his daughter’s weekend visit be like this time? What horrible thing will his ex wife do to undermine it? Etc.)? How might choosing to focus on living in the present moment help you and improve your marriage or partnership?

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