Archive for the ‘misc’ Category
Tuesday, August 10th, 2010
Being disliked takes a toll on women especially
I recently wrote an article about Stepmothers and being disliked (look for it in the September Issue of StepMom Magazine). Tolerating that others may dislike us for reasons beyond our control, and in spite of our best efforts, is an important skill to develop.
Tell me about it: Have you dealt with feeling disliked in your life as a woman with stepchildren? How did you/do you handle it? What strategies help?
Tags:adult stepchildren, blended family, divorce with children, family, remarriage, remarriage with children, step mother, stepchildren, stepfamily, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
Posted in misc, social support and friendship | 30 Comments »
Tuesday, August 3rd, 2010
What are they saying?!
The
August issue of Stepmom Magazine is live! In it you will find lots of helpful articles that address the topics that matter to you, including mine on the two most powerful words in a remarriage with children…Mary Kelly-Williams on grief in stepfamilies; Peggy Nolan on remarriage with kids and military deployment; as well as fantastic pieces by Joan Sarin, Susan Swanson, Susan Wisdom, and many other experts on repartnership with children. You’ll have to subscribe to read the articles…but it’s well worth the price. I know, it’s really cheap of me to set you up this way.
Happy reading!
Tags:blended family, divorce, divorce with children, family, remarriage, remarriage with children, step mother, stepfamily, Stepmom Magazine, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
Posted in misc, your marriage/partnership | 2 Comments »
Monday, August 2nd, 2010
Does this symbol scare you?
Ah, that hot, vexed topic: money. Divvying it up can be tricky in any partnership. Now throw in some kids from a previous marriage, and it becomes more complicated still. Merged? Partially merged? Totally separate bank accounts? Peggy Nolan and Erin Erickson tackle this topic with their guest Kat Nelson-Reid, a stepmom and financial planner, on tonight’s Stepmom’s Toolbox Radio Show at 8 pm EST. To tune in, click on this link:
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thestepmomstoolbox/page/2
You can also check out the interview I did with Erin and Peggy a few months ago.
Happy listening.
Posted in events, misc, podcasts and interviews | 6 Comments »
Friday, July 2nd, 2010
Not just another pretty face--Susan Swanson really gets it
Sure, it’s a long holiday weekend. BBQs, fireworks…and for some of us in stepfamilies, stress. “Coming together” can be fraught when it’s a yours, mine, and ours situation as in a remarriage or repartnership with kids. That’s why
Susan Swanson’s Monday July 5 radio show is so timely. Check out the list of upcoming shows too. Susan is the founder of the Stepfamily Center of Los Angeles, a gifted and experienced therapist–and has walked the stepmother walk!
Tags:blended family, divorce, family, remarriage, remarriage with children, step mother, stepfamily, Stepfamily Center, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, Susan Swanson, wednesday martin
Posted in misc, podcasts and interviews, profiles | No Comments »
Wednesday, June 9th, 2010
Hope you will check out my most recent article for psychologytoday.com on partnership, love, and lust. What role do secrets and novel experiences play in keeping marriages alive?
Tell me about it: Do you keep secrets from your husband or partner? Your comments will be kept secret, as always…
Tags:Ashton Kutcher, couple, couples therapy, Ester Perel, Katherine Heigl, Killers, marriage, Marty Babits, Mating in Captivity, remarriage, remarriage with children, romance, sex therapy, sexuality, step mother, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, The Power of the Middle Ground, wednesday martin
Posted in misc, your marriage/partnership | 9 Comments »
Friday, June 4th, 2010
Worth every penny
Hope you will check out the
June issue of StepMom magazine. Yes, you’ll have to subscribe–but it’s worth it! This month’s articles include one by me on how remarried with kids fight–everything you need to know about “conflict by proxy”. That’s when you have your husband or partner’s feelings for him, or fight his battles for him.
Also look for helpful articles by Mary Kelly Williams (on money!), Jacque Fletcher, and many more.
TELL ME ABOUT IT: How did your last fight with your husband or partner go? Was it productive?
Tags:blended family, divorce, family, remarriage, remarriage with children, stepfamily, Stepmom Magazine, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
Posted in misc | 9 Comments »
Tuesday, May 25th, 2010
I asked Kermyt G. Anderson, an evolutionary biologist and anthropologist, to weigh in on the topic of delayed childbearing. You know, older mothers! He makes the interesting point that in stepfamilies, we’re often pushing our reproductive careers to the max, since we might be repartnering a little later in life post-divorce (or breakup), and then wanting to have a child or a family.
Sound familiar?
Check out KG’s guest post on my psychologytoday.com blog. You might check out his wonderful new book, too: Fatherhood: Evolution and Human Paternal Behavior
Tags:blended family, divorce, evolutionary biology, family, human behavioral ecology, remarriage, remarriage with children, stepchildren, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support
Posted in guest bloggers, misc | 1 Comment »
Tuesday, May 4th, 2010
Oh please, we're like, so NOT the Brady Bunch??
Do you watch Glee? Are you obsessed? Even if the answer is no and no, please check out my
new article on Psychology Today about Glee and the “blended family” paradigm…
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/stepmonster/201005/glee-and-american-families-were-not-the-brady-bunch
Tags:blended family, divorce, divorce with children, family, Glee, remarriage, stepfamily, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
Posted in celebs/popular culture, misc | 2 Comments »
Wednesday, April 28th, 2010
Well, who knows? But she is a mother now. Will she remain a stepmother?
If you’ve been on my blog before you know that I am a celebrity/popular culture junkie. Since November, I’ve been following the Sandra Bullock saga (who hasn’t?) and writing about it here, on Psychology Today and The Huffington Post. So, Sandra’s now a mother and an ex-stepmother-to-be. What does it matter? Hope you’ll check out
my latest article on Psychology Today–and leave a comment!
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/stepmonster/201004/what-the-sandra-bullock-saga-can-teach-us-about-stepmotherhood
Tags:blended family, divorce, family, Janine Lindemulder, Jesse James, remarriage, remarriage with children, Sandra Bullock, stepchild, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, Sunny James, wednesday martin
Posted in celebs/popular culture, misc | No Comments »
Wednesday, March 24th, 2010
The cultural pressure on Sandra Bullock to be a stepmartyr is enormous
Are you following the Sandra Bullock/Jesse James breakup story? Have a look at my latest piece for
psychologytoday.com–and please leave a comment!
Tags:breakup, divorce, family, infidelity, Jesse James, Sandra Bullock, stepmonster, Sunny James, wednesday martin
Posted in celebs/popular culture, misc | 1 Comment »
