Archive for the ‘misc’ Category
Tuesday, January 3rd, 2012

Read all about it--a publication by, for and about women with stepkids!
Happy New Year, and happy 3rd birthday to Stepmom Magazine.
The January issue has more of what you count on it for…sound advice, reassurance, and insight from stepparenting experts and authors like Mary Kelly-Williams, Susan Wisdom, Jenna Korf and Heather Hetchler, to name a few. Check it out…including my piece, “Pulling the Plug on Perfect,” about how letting go of our fixation on happy endings and blended families frees us up to enjoy our lives and our relationships as never before.
Tags:blended family, divorce, family, remarriage with children, step mother, stepfamily, Stepmom Magazine, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
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Wednesday, October 19th, 2011

All over China, people are asking themselves how this could have happened–the story of two-year-old Yueyue
Tags:bystander effect, China, china hit and run, china toddler hit and run, compensation culture, diffusion of responsibility, female infanticide, guanxi, rise of China, social psychology, stepmonster, wednesday martin, yueyue
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Thursday, February 24th, 2011

Doing too much won't win their love
Often, we feel that doing more and trying harder is all it will take to “fix” an unhappy stepfamily situation, or a remarriage with children under strain. In my
latest post for psychologytoday.com, I write about why doing less is a better tactic. Hope you will have a read…and leave a comment.
Tags:blended family, division of household labor, divorce, domestic chores, family, gender script, psychologytoday.com, remarriage, step mother, stepfamily, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
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Saturday, December 18th, 2010

Have a good enough holiday!
Hope you will have a look at my
latest post on psychologytoday.com….and leave a comment. And tell me about it…what are you doing for the holidays? Any tips for other women with stepchildren?
Tags:blended family, divorce, family, holidays and stepfamily, remarriage, remarriage with children, step mother, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
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Thursday, November 25th, 2010

Hope your holiday is really cute!
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Tuesday, November 23rd, 2010

Women with stepchildren often find holidays stressful. How to cope...
If you’re a woman with stepkids, you might already know the answer. Here’s a piece I wrote for psychologytoday.com on
holidays for women with stepchildren. Hope you will have a read and TELL ME ABOUT IT: how are you and your husband or partner with kids celebrating Thanksgiving? With or without the kids? Together or apart? Your relatives, his, or both? Who’s cooking?
Tags:blended family, divorce, family, holidays for stepfamilies, remarriage, remarriage with children, stepfamilies and holidays, stepfamily, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
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Tuesday, August 10th, 2010

Being disliked takes a toll on women especially
I recently wrote an article about Stepmothers and being disliked (look for it in the September Issue of StepMom Magazine). Tolerating that others may dislike us for reasons beyond our control, and in spite of our best efforts, is an important skill to develop.
Tell me about it: Have you dealt with feeling disliked in your life as a woman with stepchildren? How did you/do you handle it? What strategies help?
Tags:adult stepchildren, blended family, divorce with children, family, remarriage, remarriage with children, step mother, stepchildren, stepfamily, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
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Tuesday, August 3rd, 2010

What are they saying?!
The
August issue of Stepmom Magazine is live! In it you will find lots of helpful articles that address the topics that matter to you, including mine on the two most powerful words in a remarriage with children…Mary Kelly-Williams on grief in stepfamilies; Peggy Nolan on remarriage with kids and military deployment; as well as fantastic pieces by Joan Sarin, Susan Swanson, Susan Wisdom, and many other experts on repartnership with children. You’ll have to subscribe to read the articles…but it’s well worth the price. I know, it’s really cheap of me to set you up this way.
Happy reading!
Tags:blended family, divorce, divorce with children, family, remarriage, remarriage with children, step mother, stepfamily, Stepmom Magazine, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
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Monday, August 2nd, 2010

Does this symbol scare you?
Ah, that hot, vexed topic: money. Divvying it up can be tricky in any partnership. Now throw in some kids from a previous marriage, and it becomes more complicated still. Merged? Partially merged? Totally separate bank accounts? Peggy Nolan and Erin Erickson tackle this topic with their guest Kat Nelson-Reid, a stepmom and financial planner, on tonight’s Stepmom’s Toolbox Radio Show at 8 pm EST. To tune in, click on this link:
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thestepmomstoolbox/page/2
You can also check out the interview I did with Erin and Peggy a few months ago.
Happy listening.
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Friday, July 2nd, 2010

Not just another pretty face--Susan Swanson really gets it
Sure, it’s a long holiday weekend. BBQs, fireworks…and for some of us in stepfamilies, stress. “Coming together” can be fraught when it’s a yours, mine, and ours situation as in a remarriage or repartnership with kids. That’s why
Susan Swanson’s Monday July 5 radio show is so timely. Check out the list of upcoming shows too. Susan is the founder of the Stepfamily Center of Los Angeles, a gifted and experienced therapist–and has walked the stepmother walk!
Tags:blended family, divorce, family, remarriage, remarriage with children, step mother, stepfamily, Stepfamily Center, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, Susan Swanson, wednesday martin
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