Archive for the ‘society’ Category
Tuesday, August 21st, 2012
Hope you will have a look at my latest for psychologytoday.com on Pussy Riot

They're talking about a revolution
–and why it matters.
Tags:Pussy Riot, Russian protests, stepmonster, Vladimir Putin, wednesday martin
Posted in society | 2 Comments »
Monday, May 21st, 2012
RIP, Donna Summer. Check out my latest on psychologytoday.com

She put female sexual pleasure in the spotlight
on how her hit “Love to Love You Baby” changed the way we think about sex…and leave a comment!
Tags:disco, disco and sexuality, Donna Summer, female sexuality, history of disco, Love to Love You Baby, stepmonster, wednesday martin
Posted in society | 7 Comments »
Thursday, May 10th, 2012
Hope you will have a look at my latest post on psychologytoday.com about the phenomenon which is Fifty Shades of Grey

American women get behind Fifty Shades of Grey
Tags:bondage, female sexuality, Fifty Shades of Grey, psychology today, psychologytoday.com, S&M, stepmonster, wednesday martin
Posted in society | 3 Comments »
Thursday, September 15th, 2011

This is even harder than it looks...
Hope you will have a look at my latest piece for psychologytoday.com….on working mothers in America. What’s your childcare situation? How’s it working for you? Have a read…and leave a comment.
Tags:Allison Pearson, blended family, daycare, divorce, family, I Don't Know How She Does It, maternal leave policy, Sarah Jessica Parker, step mother, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin, working mother
Posted in celebs/popular culture | 4 Comments »
Sunday, May 8th, 2011

No, that’s not a typo. Some of you who read my blog are mothers who also have stepchildren. Some of you are straight up stepmothers, and today is likely more complicated for you than it is for those stepmothers who also have kids of their own.
Yes, I just said that, “kids of their own.” Because as anyone who reads my blog knows, I am not one of those people who urges you to think of yourself as their “other mother” or a mom figure or like a mom in any way. Unless you want a whole world of trouble, loyalty binds, and resentment heaped upon you. Instead, women with stepkids can feel free to consider the whole range of options available to us–from very involved, if kids and their mom are okay with that, to not very involved at all, just a welcoming presence. There’s a whole stepmothering spectrum, and sentimentalizing and romanticizing how the “bond” between women and their stepkids of any age “should” be only sets us up for hurt and disappointment.
If your husband’s kids didn’t call you for Mother’s Day, that might just be the very best development ever. Most likely, they have a mom, and being in touch with you today could make them feel disloyal to her. It’s not about your efforts, which have been wonderful, or your personality, which I know is far from wicked. It’s just that, since parents and stepparents are not the same, it’s different. Happy Other’s Day to you. Because you’re more than “another mother”–you’re a person with the freedom to live this relationship with his kids that way that feels authentic to you.
Tags:adult stepchildren, blended family, divorce, family, remarriage, remarriage with children, step mother, stepchildren, stepfamily, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
Posted in society, your marriage/partnership | 6 Comments »
Tuesday, April 26th, 2011

Just a couple of girls in fabulous hats...
I’m soooo tired of this royal wedding hubbub, but I had to write about it anyway. Hope you will have a look at
my latest post for psychologytoday.com about Camilla, Kate, and the royal wedding…and tell me about it, DO YOU HAVE A STEPFAMILY WEDDING STORY?
Tags:adult stepchildren, blended family, Camilla Parker-Bowles, divorce, family, Kate Middleton, remarriage, remarriage with children, royal wedding, step mother, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support
Posted in celebs/popular culture, society | 5 Comments »
Thursday, April 21st, 2011

Kosher for Easter
Do you do a seder, Easter Sunday, neither, both? Hope you will have a look at my latest post for psychologytoday.com. As it turns out, interfaith couples can learn a lot from stepfamilies…
Tags:blended family, divorce, easter, family, family traditions, interfaith marriage, passover, remarriage, remarriage with children, step mother, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin, woman with stepchildren
Posted in parenting practices, society, your marriage/partnership | No Comments »
Thursday, January 6th, 2011

Stepmoms and Ex-Wives on psychologytoday.com
If you are interested in wife/ex-wife conflict but haven’t yet subscribed to StepMom magazine, where I have an article on the topic, you might have a look at an introduction, heavy on the celebs (LeAnn and Cam), on
psychologytoday.com
Tags:blended family, conflict between wife and ex-wife, divorce, ex-wife, family, psychology today, psychologytoday.com, remarriage, remarriage with children, step mother, stepchildren, stepmonster, stepmother, wednesday martin
Posted in celebs/popular culture, his ex, society, your marriage/partnership | 1 Comment »
Monday, January 3rd, 2011

Cameron and A-Rod's daughter
Let me get something out front: I love Star Magazine. Oh, and Us. I also love The New Yorker and the Journal of Divorce and Remarriage. But I’ve got nothing against lowbrow.
The cases of LeAnn Rimes and Cameron Diaz–one a stepmom, one a woman dating a man with young children–might be spectacularly public, but they’re also universal. Each celeb seems to be incurring the wrath of her man’s ex-wife.
Beyond having been cheated on and dumped, what are the roots of ex-wife resentment? What makes an ex-wife infuriated and irrationally nasty toward the stepmother of her children, even when that woman didn’t break up her marriage? Why does she undermine your relationship with her kids and do everything in her power to make your life hell? Hint: it’s not really about money. I write about where Mommy Tiger is coming from–and what you can do if your husband’s ex has it out for the two of you–in the current, second-year anniversary double edition of Stepmom magazine. You can also read an introduction to the article here, on psychologytoday.com
Tags:A-Rod, blended family, Cameron Diaz, divorce, Eddie Cibrian, ex-wife and wife conflict, ex-wife and wife relationship, family, LeAnn Rimes, remarriage, Stepmom Magazine, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
Posted in celebs/popular culture, his ex, society, your marriage/partnership | 3 Comments »
Tuesday, October 26th, 2010

Hey lady, have you read the new research on siblings, friends, and stress?
Women in stressful situations–does that ring a bell?–need social support. So call a friend and meet him or her for coffee and have a chat. Even if you don’t talk about what’s bothering you directly, it can make a big difference. Oh, and don’t forget to read
my latest post on psychology.com, about the newest research on siblings and social support!
And TELL ME ABOUT IT: DO YOU TALK TO YOUR SIBLING/S ABOUT ISSUES IN YOUR REMARRIAGE WITH CHILDREN?
Tags:blended family, deborah tannen, divorce, family, friendship, mental health benefits of friendship, remarriage, remarriage with children, siblings, siblings and happiness, social support, stepmonster, stepmother, wednesday martin, you just don't understand
Posted in society | 5 Comments »