Posts Tagged ‘remarriage with children’
Tuesday, April 26th, 2011
Just a couple of girls in fabulous hats...
I’m soooo tired of this royal wedding hubbub, but I had to write about it anyway. Hope you will have a look at
my latest post for psychologytoday.com about Camilla, Kate, and the royal wedding…and tell me about it, DO YOU HAVE A STEPFAMILY WEDDING STORY?
Tags:adult stepchildren, blended family, Camilla Parker-Bowles, divorce, family, Kate Middleton, remarriage, remarriage with children, royal wedding, step mother, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support
Posted in celebs/popular culture, society | 5 Comments »
Thursday, April 21st, 2011
Kosher for Easter
Do you do a seder, Easter Sunday, neither, both? Hope you will have a look at my latest post for psychologytoday.com. As it turns out, interfaith couples can learn a lot from stepfamilies…
Tags:blended family, divorce, easter, family, family traditions, interfaith marriage, passover, remarriage, remarriage with children, step mother, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin, woman with stepchildren
Posted in parenting practices, society, your marriage/partnership | No Comments »
Thursday, April 7th, 2011
What women with stepchildren can’t relate to what Pema Chodron writes: “The saddest thing of all is how we cheat ourselves of the present moment.”
Are you angry about the past and anxious about the future?
Many of our stepmothering dilemmas are beyond our control–stressors abound in a repartnership with a man with children. But our responses to stress are, thankfully, something we can take charge of.
What part of your day is given over to ruminating over the past–the way his children and/or ex mistreated you or him, for example–or worrying about what may happen in the future? (What will his daughter’s weekend visit be like this time? What horrible thing will his ex wife do to undermine it? Etc.)? How might choosing to focus on living in the present moment help you and improve your marriage or partnership?
Tags:blended family, divorce, family, pema chodron, remarriage, remarriage with children, step mother, stepchildren, stepfamily, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
Posted in book news | 22 Comments »
Monday, April 4th, 2011
How'd she get so happy?
Money is a big, hot topic in a remarriage with children. Plenty of women feel guilty, confused, and resentful about their own financial well-being after they partner with a man with kids. Read all about it–and topics that matter to you by Mary Kelly-Williams, Lisa Bagshaw, Laura Petherbridge, and other writers who walk the walk–in the
April issue of StepMom Magazine. Worth every penny.
Tags:blended family, divorce, family, financial stress, remarriage with children, step mother, stepfamily, stepfamily finances, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
Posted in finances, your marriage/partnership | 3 Comments »
Thursday, March 10th, 2011
In my latest piece for psychology today, how to talk so you your husband will listen, and argue in a way that will strengthen your marriage, rather than sink it. Hope you will have a read…and leave a comment!
Tags:blended family, divorced dad, family, marriage, psychology today, remarriage, remarriage with children, step mother, stepchildren, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
Posted in your marriage/partnership | 3 Comments »
Wednesday, February 23rd, 2011
Stepmothering is hard work
Coming soon on Psychologytoday.com, Why women with stepkids should stop being unpaid nannies, maids, chefs and drivers right now.
Tags:blended family, divorce, family, remarriage, remarriage with children, step mother, stepfamily, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
Posted in book news, your marriage/partnership | 5 Comments »
Tuesday, January 25th, 2011
Amy Chua has it out for permissive parents. So do I!
What happens to kids when parents are permissive and indulgent? Research suggests that they are lower functioning across several measures–socially, emotionally, and academically–and they certainly aren’t much fun to be around. This is a legacy they bring with them into adulthood; many of today’s twenty-somethings, researchers like Ron Taffel note, were raised with so much indiscriminate and unwarranted praise, and so few appropriate boundaries and rules, that they have an inflated sense of their own importance and achievements, and unrealistic expectations not only within their own family system, but also in the world (I am reminded of a nanny candidate with a B.A. but zero full-time nanny experience who told me she “required” an outrageous salary–in cash –”in order to be happy”)
I hope it’s not too confusing that my most recent post was about the Mommy Tiger–and this one is about Amy Chua’s Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, wherein she asserts that there is a place for strict, authoritarian parenting.
It’s something stepmothers might dream about–parents so firm that stepmom gets to seem fun in comparison. Alas, too often the opposite is the case. Divorced dads are notoriously guilty and permissive parents. Single moms may be so frazzled and busy (or undermining of the child’s relationship with dad and stepmom) that they don’t do their part to raise responsible and considerate children on their end. And so the stepmom with normal expectations looks draconian and wicked compared to “good time Mom” and “Disney Dad.”
Sound familiar? Hope you will read my piece on different parenting styles, and why permissive parenting is for the birds, on psychologytoday.com
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/stepmonster/201101/the-taunting-tiger-mom-and-her-lessons
Tags:Amy Chua, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, blended family, divorce, family, remarriage, remarriage with children, step mother, stepchildren, stepfamily, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
Posted in parenting practices | 8 Comments »
Thursday, January 6th, 2011
Stepmoms and Ex-Wives on psychologytoday.com
If you are interested in wife/ex-wife conflict but haven’t yet subscribed to StepMom magazine, where I have an article on the topic, you might have a look at an introduction, heavy on the celebs (LeAnn and Cam), on
psychologytoday.com
Tags:blended family, conflict between wife and ex-wife, divorce, ex-wife, family, psychology today, psychologytoday.com, remarriage, remarriage with children, step mother, stepchildren, stepmonster, stepmother, wednesday martin
Posted in celebs/popular culture, his ex, society, your marriage/partnership | 1 Comment »
Wednesday, December 22nd, 2010
You told me what's on your list
Maybe what you want for the holidays is some understanding! I wrote
a piece for StepMom Magazine that is currently on their sample articles page. Have a look…and you may just want to get yourself a subscription to the online magazine as a holiday gift.
Tags:blended family, divorce, family, holiday stress, remarriage, remarriage with children, step mother, stepchildren, stepfamily hoilday, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
Posted in social support and friendship | 2 Comments »
Monday, December 20th, 2010
Tune in for Stepmom SOS...
On Monday evening Dec 20 at 8 pm EST I’ll be talking to stepmom bloggers Peggy Nolan and Erin Erickson LIVE on
their Blog Talk Radio Show (you might hear my children yelling in the background!) Tune in, listen, call in, send in questions….hope to “talk” to you then!
Tags:blended family, divorce, family, holiday stress, remarriage, remarriage with children, stepchild, stepfamily, stepfamily holiday, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
Posted in events, podcasts and interviews | No Comments »
In my latest piece for psychology today, how to talk so you your husband will listen, and argue in a way that will strengthen your marriage, rather than sink it. Hope you will have a read…and leave a comment!
