Posts Tagged ‘stepfamily’

Stepmom Magazine’s January Issue is Here…

Tuesday, January 3rd, 2012

Read all about it--a publication by, for and about women with stepkids!


Happy New Year, and happy 3rd birthday to Stepmom Magazine. The January issue has more of what you count on it for…sound advice, reassurance, and insight from stepparenting experts and authors like Mary Kelly-Williams, Susan Wisdom, Jenna Korf and Heather Hetchler, to name a few. Check it out…including my piece, “Pulling the Plug on Perfect,” about how letting go of our fixation on happy endings and blended families frees us up to enjoy our lives and our relationships as never before.

What Are Happily Married People Doing All the Time?

Thursday, December 15th, 2011

Now what? The secret to a happy marriage on psychologytoday.com

If you are married to or partnered with a man with an ex and kids, you need every leg up you can get to keep yourself sane–and keep your partnership alive. Hope you will read my latest on psychologytoday.com. Then tell your husband or partner what happily married people are doing all the time…and leave a comment!

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/stepmonster/201112/give-it-me-often-the-surprising-secret-happy-marriage

October Issue of StepMom Magazine

Tuesday, October 4th, 2011

Lots of great articles on topics that matter to YOU


The October issue of StepMom Magazine is live! In it you will find articles by experts and women with stepchildren who walk the walk. You will find great advice and insight in these pages. This month I write about women with stepchildren and negativity. What is your best “fix” when you find yourself in a negativity spiral? Tell me about it.

Childless and Child Free Women with Stepchildren–What are the Issues? And Kim Cottrell asks, “Which term shall we use?”

Wednesday, September 28th, 2011

Have a listen, post a comment


Here’s a link to a radio interview I recently did with stepfamily therapist Mary Kelly-Williams, M.A. of marriedwithbaggage.com on her Blog Talk Radio show. We discussed childless and childfree women with stepchildren, their particular issues and challenges. Hope you will have a listen! Separately, blogger Kim Cottrell wonders “What to call us? Childfree sounds egocentric, childless sounds deprived.” What do you think? Do we need a new term?

Call-In Radio Interview for Stepmothers Sept 27

Monday, September 26th, 2011

Testing, testing...please tune in!

I will be discussing the emotional reality of childless and child-free stepmothers with host Mary Kelly-Williams, M.A. on her Blog Talk Radio show September 27 at 11 am EST. Hope you will tune in…you can also call into the show to ask a question.

Workshop on What Matters to YOU

Wednesday, September 14th, 2011

Hope to see you there...

What are your biggest concerns and issues regarding your parntership with a man with kids (and and ex)? Tell me about it. I will be co-conducting a workshop with stepfamily expert Dr. Rachelle Katz on Saturday September 24 in NYC. Register by clicking here…and tell us about your biggest issue in the comments section below…

Post a question…get an answer!

Wednesday, July 13th, 2011

What are your questions?

I am the special guest expert on CafeMom’s Stepmom Central board this week. Hope you will stop by the site and ask a question

Why It’s Easier to Love a Stepfather than a Stepmother

Tuesday, June 21st, 2011

Not!

Hope you will have a look at my latest post for psychologytoday.com…and leave a comment!

What do Divorced and Repartnered Dads Really Want for Father’s Day?

Monday, June 13th, 2011

What does father want?


If you’re not a subscriber to StepMom Magazine, here is a chance to read a couple of sample articles from the most recent issue. In one, I discuss the dilemmas of divorced dads on Father’s Day–and the gift your partner with kids will appreciate most of all. Hope you will have a look!

Happy Other’s Day

Sunday, May 8th, 2011


No, that’s not a typo. Some of you who read my blog are mothers who also have stepchildren. Some of you are straight up stepmothers, and today is likely more complicated for you than it is for those stepmothers who also have kids of their own.

Yes, I just said that, “kids of their own.” Because as anyone who reads my blog knows, I am not one of those people who urges you to think of yourself as their “other mother” or a mom figure or like a mom in any way. Unless you want a whole world of trouble, loyalty binds, and resentment heaped upon you. Instead, women with stepkids can feel free to consider the whole range of options available to us–from very involved, if kids and their mom are okay with that, to not very involved at all, just a welcoming presence. There’s a whole stepmothering spectrum, and sentimentalizing and romanticizing how the “bond” between women and their stepkids of any age “should” be only sets us up for hurt and disappointment.

If your husband’s kids didn’t call you for Mother’s Day, that might just be the very best development ever. Most likely, they have a mom, and being in touch with you today could make them feel disloyal to her. It’s not about your efforts, which have been wonderful, or your personality, which I know is far from wicked. It’s just that, since parents and stepparents are not the same, it’s different. Happy Other’s Day to you. Because you’re more than “another mother”–you’re a person with the freedom to live this relationship with his kids that way that feels authentic to you.