Posts Tagged ‘stepmother’
Thursday, February 24th, 2011
Doing too much won't win their love
Often, we feel that doing more and trying harder is all it will take to “fix” an unhappy stepfamily situation, or a remarriage with children under strain. In my
latest post for psychologytoday.com, I write about why doing less is a better tactic. Hope you will have a read…and leave a comment.
Tags:blended family, division of household labor, divorce, domestic chores, family, gender script, psychologytoday.com, remarriage, step mother, stepfamily, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
Posted in misc, your marriage/partnership | 3 Comments »
Wednesday, February 23rd, 2011
Stepmothering is hard work
Coming soon on Psychologytoday.com, Why women with stepkids should stop being unpaid nannies, maids, chefs and drivers right now.
Tags:blended family, divorce, family, remarriage, remarriage with children, step mother, stepfamily, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
Posted in book news, your marriage/partnership | 5 Comments »
Monday, February 14th, 2011
I will be conducting a workshop with Rachelle Katz in New York City on April 2nd. You and your partner are welcome to attend! Whether your stepkids are four or 45, we will cover the issues that matter to you. Hope to see you there!
click here for more information and to register:
http://www.thehappystepmother.com/resources.html
Tags:Rachelle Katz, step mother, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin, workshop for stepmothers
Posted in events, your marriage/partnership | No Comments »
Monday, January 31st, 2011
Hope you will check out my latest post on psychologytoday.com and tell me what you think about paternal rights (as distinct from father’s rights)….
Tags:Adam Dell, baby daddy, blended family, custody law, divorce, family, Padma Lakshmi, Padma Lakshmi custody battle, remarriage, reparntership, step mother, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
Posted in book news | 3 Comments »
Tuesday, January 25th, 2011
Amy Chua has it out for permissive parents. So do I!
What happens to kids when parents are permissive and indulgent? Research suggests that they are lower functioning across several measures–socially, emotionally, and academically–and they certainly aren’t much fun to be around. This is a legacy they bring with them into adulthood; many of today’s twenty-somethings, researchers like Ron Taffel note, were raised with so much indiscriminate and unwarranted praise, and so few appropriate boundaries and rules, that they have an inflated sense of their own importance and achievements, and unrealistic expectations not only within their own family system, but also in the world (I am reminded of a nanny candidate with a B.A. but zero full-time nanny experience who told me she “required” an outrageous salary–in cash –”in order to be happy”)
I hope it’s not too confusing that my most recent post was about the Mommy Tiger–and this one is about Amy Chua’s Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, wherein she asserts that there is a place for strict, authoritarian parenting.
It’s something stepmothers might dream about–parents so firm that stepmom gets to seem fun in comparison. Alas, too often the opposite is the case. Divorced dads are notoriously guilty and permissive parents. Single moms may be so frazzled and busy (or undermining of the child’s relationship with dad and stepmom) that they don’t do their part to raise responsible and considerate children on their end. And so the stepmom with normal expectations looks draconian and wicked compared to “good time Mom” and “Disney Dad.”
Sound familiar? Hope you will read my piece on different parenting styles, and why permissive parenting is for the birds, on psychologytoday.com
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/stepmonster/201101/the-taunting-tiger-mom-and-her-lessons
Tags:Amy Chua, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, blended family, divorce, family, remarriage, remarriage with children, step mother, stepchildren, stepfamily, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
Posted in parenting practices | 8 Comments »
Thursday, January 6th, 2011
Stepmoms and Ex-Wives on psychologytoday.com
If you are interested in wife/ex-wife conflict but haven’t yet subscribed to StepMom magazine, where I have an article on the topic, you might have a look at an introduction, heavy on the celebs (LeAnn and Cam), on
psychologytoday.com
Tags:blended family, conflict between wife and ex-wife, divorce, ex-wife, family, psychology today, psychologytoday.com, remarriage, remarriage with children, step mother, stepchildren, stepmonster, stepmother, wednesday martin
Posted in celebs/popular culture, his ex, society, your marriage/partnership | 1 Comment »
Monday, January 3rd, 2011
Cameron and A-Rod's daughter
Let me get something out front: I love Star Magazine. Oh, and Us. I also love The New Yorker and the Journal of Divorce and Remarriage. But I’ve got nothing against lowbrow.
The cases of LeAnn Rimes and Cameron Diaz–one a stepmom, one a woman dating a man with young children–might be spectacularly public, but they’re also universal. Each celeb seems to be incurring the wrath of her man’s ex-wife.
Beyond having been cheated on and dumped, what are the roots of ex-wife resentment? What makes an ex-wife infuriated and irrationally nasty toward the stepmother of her children, even when that woman didn’t break up her marriage? Why does she undermine your relationship with her kids and do everything in her power to make your life hell? Hint: it’s not really about money. I write about where Mommy Tiger is coming from–and what you can do if your husband’s ex has it out for the two of you–in the current, second-year anniversary double edition of Stepmom magazine. You can also read an introduction to the article here, on psychologytoday.com
Tags:A-Rod, blended family, Cameron Diaz, divorce, Eddie Cibrian, ex-wife and wife conflict, ex-wife and wife relationship, family, LeAnn Rimes, remarriage, Stepmom Magazine, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
Posted in celebs/popular culture, his ex, society, your marriage/partnership | 3 Comments »
Wednesday, December 22nd, 2010
You told me what's on your list
Maybe what you want for the holidays is some understanding! I wrote
a piece for StepMom Magazine that is currently on their sample articles page. Have a look…and you may just want to get yourself a subscription to the online magazine as a holiday gift.
Tags:blended family, divorce, family, holiday stress, remarriage, remarriage with children, step mother, stepchildren, stepfamily hoilday, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
Posted in social support and friendship | 2 Comments »
Monday, December 20th, 2010
Tune in for Stepmom SOS...
On Monday evening Dec 20 at 8 pm EST I’ll be talking to stepmom bloggers Peggy Nolan and Erin Erickson LIVE on
their Blog Talk Radio Show (you might hear my children yelling in the background!) Tune in, listen, call in, send in questions….hope to “talk” to you then!
Tags:blended family, divorce, family, holiday stress, remarriage, remarriage with children, stepchild, stepfamily, stepfamily holiday, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
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Saturday, December 18th, 2010
Have a good enough holiday!
Hope you will have a look at my
latest post on psychologytoday.com….and leave a comment. And tell me about it…what are you doing for the holidays? Any tips for other women with stepchildren?
Tags:blended family, divorce, family, holidays and stepfamily, remarriage, remarriage with children, step mother, stepmonster, stepmother, stepmother advice, stepmother support, wednesday martin
Posted in misc | 5 Comments »
